February 2012
Warning: Rather lengthy.... Let me know your...
(Mr Dangerous is not the name he uses, I changed it to "protect the innocent" if need be)
[12: 11 pm] what is your stance on becoming involved with a woman who is no olonger emotionally attached to her husband in anyway and would like to be invovled with a new man but currently not divorsed, I am asking for the female side because I have my opinion on it but not sure if guilt should be as big a factor as i think it is.
[12: 11 pm] Depends... is the husband aware? Or does he think they're still "together"?
[12: 13 pm] hypothetical he is not in the home anymore lol
[12: 13 pm] divorce is in the works just not complete for awhile yet
[12: 14 pm] Well considering I'm sorta in the same situation I don't see anything wrong with it
[12: 14 pm] as long as the husband knows it's over
[12: 15 pm] dam, that is the same way the other party feels in this situation also, what is wrong with me, I am having a hang up on the being invovled with another mans wife even tho it seems she is not.
[12: 16 pm] if that's the way you feel, don't throw your own morals and ethics to the side
[12: 17 pm] it is but why do i seem like the odd ball here.
[12: 17 pm] I can't answer that intelligently... because it's a matter of feelings
[12: 18 pm] My only other worry is how long was she married? How long have they been apart?
[12: 18 pm] Rebounds are a bitch
[12: 19 pm] If she hasn't been out of the situation very long she hasn't a clue who she is right now
[12: 20 pm] uh? been apart since october but been emontionally disconnected for many years if I believe her side of it, but it seems as though it is true. She just ended a relationship with someone else who she termed fun but wrong for her. I didn't start all this she came to me.
[12: 20 pm] that's because she's hungry
[12: 20 pm] she's looking for a man to FIX things because a man broke things
[12: 20 pm] in her eyes
[12: 20 pm] I've been there
[12: 22 pm] I'm in a similar situation... I've recently met someone that, OMG gets to me
[12: 22 pm] BUT
[12: 22 pm] I'm only 3 months out of a 7 year relationship
[12: 22 pm] i have rules about that
[12: 22 pm] ok, but what if I want to try and can in fact be the one for her?
[12: 23 pm] then take it slow
[12: 24 pm] If it were meant to be, then it will be there when YOU feel it's appropriate for you
[12: 25 pm] I am trying so hard but she is on a bullet train it seems and I don't get that. I do like her tho. I wa in no way ready for this at all. I was just fine on my own but I do think I wnat to go forward but at my pace not the one she seems to be on, I guess she will stay curious if she really likes me then, fine I am not wrong and I will do it my way
[12: 26 pm] She's on a bullet train because she hurts and wants someone to fix it
[12: 28 pm] but, Mr Dangerous, we both know that you should never look for happiness outside yourself
[12: 28 pm] it puts an undue burdon on the other person
[12: 28 pm] an impossible burdon actually
[12: 29 pm] nice, see what happens when I am pleasant to be around I get myself caught up.
[12: 29 pm] indeed
[12: 30 pm] oh if you only knew
[12: 31 pm] I just TRIED really hard to give you as unbiased advice as I could, but take it with a grain of salt and do what feels right to you
[12: 33 pm] i know and thank you for that honest no bulls@# assessment.
[12: 35 pm] Well Mr Dangerous, the reason I said that is because you're the one that has gotten to me, but I guess my own rules got in my way LOL
[12: 35 pm] So if it doesn't work out... keep me in mind *insert smiley here*
[12: 38 pm] And here I am clueless, I have always been good at being friends but not very good at seeing when someone is wanting to be close to me. I also tned to keep women at a distance because I am never going through what I have already done again. You are an awesome lady and I hope we continue to grow together even if we can't elevate it at this point.
[12: 38 pm] Most definitely Mr Dangerous
[12: 39 pm] I just want to see you happy, wherever that may be
[12: 39 pm] You are pretty clueless though
[12: 39 pm] LOL
[12: 39 pm] that's why I told you the other day that you're dangerous to me
[12: 39 pm] You made me want to break my own rules
[12: 42 pm] lol yep always have been when it comes to the ladies I fail, maybe that's why she came at me cuz I would never have even considered approaching her.
[12: 43 pm] I know who you're talking about, she's a very very sweet girl, but keep in mind she's broken right now and has no clue who she is
[12: 43 pm] I'm not saying not to proceed, just proceed with caution
[12: 43 pm] she may take out all her past hurts on you because she has NOT dealt with them
[12: 44 pm] and as much as you want to be her knight, you can't fix her... only she can
[12: 44 pm] how do you know I haven't even told anyone
[12: 44 pm] because I've talked to her.... and I'm REEAALLLLYYYY good at reading people
[12: 44 pm] and i don't miss much
[12: 45 pm] I've talked to her at length about her situation... that's why i know what's going on
[12: 46 pm] initials please, I do believe you don't miss much tho
[12: 47 pm] bm
[12: 49 pm] I will in no way change myself for her I will never do that again, I will only be me and do me, so don't fear for me there. I suppose I will have to be strong enough for two for awhile but if it works out then she will heal in time am I ready for this hell no. and DAMMIT you do know.
[12: 50 pm] You'd be amazed at what I know
[12: 50 pm] people talk to me every bit as much as they do MH lol
[12: 50 pm] but I also pay attention to EVERYTHING else going on around me
[12: 52 pm] I do ok except when it comes to girls I can befriend them no problem just seem to have a wall after that point
[12: 53 pm] Well I'm REALLY glad this conversation came up... I've had a million conversations with you over the last week or so that you know nothing about LOL
[12: 53 pm] and a million more arguments with myself
[12: 54 pm] See, I have this rule that I take a month off for every year I was in a relationship
[12: 54 pm] usually not a problem because not many men peak my interest
[12: 54 pm] you were an unforeseen bump in my road LOL
[12: 56 pm] oh, well I am honor that you had to battle yourself to maintain your rules, you are an amazing person and I could spend time with you to something greater just a half step behind i guess.
[12: 57 pm] who knows what the future holds?
[12: 57 pm] I'm in no hurry
[12: 58 pm] not me that's for sure I was cruising along just fine and now I am in a tornado.
[12: 58 pm] isn't that what they say? It's always when you're not looking....
[1: 00 pm] I have been hit by two buses now you and her both. wow I am so clueless I need to crawl back in my cave.
[1: 00 pm] LOL
[1: 01 pm] Don't do that
[1: 01 pm] I really enjoy your friendship
[1: 01 pm] Me as well. I am happy we became friends.
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