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Ask me anything

10th February 2012

Warning: Rather lengthy.... Let me know your thoughts

  • (Mr Dangerous is not the name he uses, I changed it to "protect the innocent" if need be)
  • [12: 11 pm]<Mr Dangerous> what is your stance on becoming involved with a woman who is no olonger emotionally attached to her husband in anyway and would like to be invovled with a new man but currently not divorsed, I am asking for the female side because I have my opinion on it but not sure if guilt should be as big a factor as i think it is.
  • [12: 11 pm]<Amy Carr> Depends... is the husband aware? Or does he think they're still "together"?
  • [12: 13 pm]<Mr Dangerous> hypothetical he is not in the home anymore lol
  • [12: 13 pm]<Mr Dangerous> divorce is in the works just not complete for awhile yet
  • [12: 14 pm]<Amy Carr> Well considering I'm sorta in the same situation I don't see anything wrong with it
  • [12: 14 pm]<Amy Carr> as long as the husband knows it's over
  • [12: 15 pm]<Mr Dangerous> dam, that is the same way the other party feels in this situation also, what is wrong with me, I am having a hang up on the being invovled with another mans wife even tho it seems she is not.
  • [12: 16 pm]<Amy Carr> if that's the way you feel, don't throw your own morals and ethics to the side
  • [12: 17 pm]<Mr Dangerous> it is but why do i seem like the odd ball here.
  • [12: 17 pm]<Amy Carr> I can't answer that intelligently... because it's a matter of feelings
  • [12: 18 pm]<Amy Carr> My only other worry is how long was she married? How long have they been apart?
  • [12: 18 pm]<Amy Carr> Rebounds are a bitch
  • [12: 19 pm]<Amy Carr> If she hasn't been out of the situation very long she hasn't a clue who she is right now
  • [12: 20 pm]<Mr Dangerous> uh? been apart since october but been emontionally disconnected for many years if I believe her side of it, but it seems as though it is true. She just ended a relationship with someone else who she termed fun but wrong for her. I didn't start all this she came to me.
  • [12: 20 pm]<Amy Carr> that's because she's hungry
  • [12: 20 pm]<Amy Carr> she's looking for a man to FIX things because a man broke things
  • [12: 20 pm]<Amy Carr> in her eyes
  • [12: 20 pm]<Amy Carr> I've been there
  • [12: 22 pm]<Amy Carr> I'm in a similar situation... I've recently met someone that, OMG gets to me
  • [12: 22 pm]<Amy Carr> BUT
  • [12: 22 pm]<Amy Carr> I'm only 3 months out of a 7 year relationship
  • [12: 22 pm]<Amy Carr> i have rules about that
  • [12: 22 pm]<Mr Dangerous> ok, but what if I want to try and can in fact be the one for her?
  • [12: 23 pm]<Amy Carr> then take it slow
  • [12: 24 pm]<Amy Carr> If it were meant to be, then it will be there when YOU feel it's appropriate for you
  • [12: 25 pm]<Mr Dangerous> I am trying so hard but she is on a bullet train it seems and I don't get that. I do like her tho. I wa in no way ready for this at all. I was just fine on my own but I do think I wnat to go forward but at my pace not the one she seems to be on, I guess she will stay curious if she really likes me then, fine I am not wrong and I will do it my way
  • [12: 26 pm]<Amy Carr> She's on a bullet train because she hurts and wants someone to fix it
  • [12: 28 pm]<Amy Carr> but, Mr Dangerous, we both know that you should never look for happiness outside yourself
  • [12: 28 pm]<Amy Carr> it puts an undue burdon on the other person
  • [12: 28 pm]<Amy Carr> an impossible burdon actually
  • [12: 29 pm]<Mr Dangerous> nice, see what happens when I am pleasant to be around I get myself caught up.
  • [12: 29 pm]<Amy Carr> indeed
  • [12: 30 pm]<Amy Carr> oh if you only knew
  • [12: 31 pm]<Amy Carr> I just TRIED really hard to give you as unbiased advice as I could, but take it with a grain of salt and do what feels right to you
  • [12: 33 pm]<Mr Dangerous> i know and thank you for that honest no bulls@# assessment.
  • [12: 35 pm]<Amy Carr> Well Mr Dangerous, the reason I said that is because you're the one that has gotten to me, but I guess my own rules got in my way LOL
  • [12: 35 pm]<Amy Carr> So if it doesn't work out... keep me in mind *insert smiley here*
  • [12: 38 pm]<Mr Dangerous> And here I am clueless, I have always been good at being friends but not very good at seeing when someone is wanting to be close to me. I also tned to keep women at a distance because I am never going through what I have already done again. You are an awesome lady and I hope we continue to grow together even if we can't elevate it at this point.
  • [12: 38 pm]<Amy Carr> Most definitely Mr Dangerous
  • [12: 39 pm]<Amy Carr> I just want to see you happy, wherever that may be
  • [12: 39 pm]<Amy Carr> You are pretty clueless though
  • [12: 39 pm]<Amy Carr> LOL
  • [12: 39 pm]<Amy Carr> that's why I told you the other day that you're dangerous to me
  • [12: 39 pm]<Amy Carr> You made me want to break my own rules
  • [12: 42 pm]<Mr Dangerous> lol yep always have been when it comes to the ladies I fail, maybe that's why she came at me cuz I would never have even considered approaching her.
  • [12: 43 pm]<Amy Carr> I know who you're talking about, she's a very very sweet girl, but keep in mind she's broken right now and has no clue who she is
  • [12: 43 pm]<Amy Carr> I'm not saying not to proceed, just proceed with caution
  • [12: 43 pm]<Amy Carr> she may take out all her past hurts on you because she has NOT dealt with them
  • [12: 44 pm]<Amy Carr> and as much as you want to be her knight, you can't fix her... only she can
  • [12: 44 pm]<Mr Dangerous> how do you know I haven't even told anyone
  • [12: 44 pm]<Amy Carr> because I've talked to her.... and I'm REEAALLLLYYYY good at reading people
  • [12: 44 pm]<Amy Carr> and i don't miss much
  • [12: 45 pm]<Amy Carr> I've talked to her at length about her situation... that's why i know what's going on
  • [12: 46 pm]<Mr Dangerous> initials please, I do believe you don't miss much tho
  • [12: 47 pm]<Amy Carr> bm
  • [12: 49 pm]<Mr Dangerous> I will in no way change myself for her I will never do that again, I will only be me and do me, so don't fear for me there. I suppose I will have to be strong enough for two for awhile but if it works out then she will heal in time am I ready for this hell no. and DAMMIT you do know.
  • [12: 50 pm]<Amy Carr> You'd be amazed at what I know
  • [12: 50 pm]<Amy Carr> people talk to me every bit as much as they do MH lol
  • [12: 50 pm]<Amy Carr> but I also pay attention to EVERYTHING else going on around me
  • [12: 52 pm]<Mr Dangerous> I do ok except when it comes to girls I can befriend them no problem just seem to have a wall after that point
  • [12: 53 pm]<Amy Carr> Well I'm REALLY glad this conversation came up... I've had a million conversations with you over the last week or so that you know nothing about LOL
  • [12: 53 pm]<Amy Carr> and a million more arguments with myself
  • [12: 54 pm]<Amy Carr> See, I have this rule that I take a month off for every year I was in a relationship
  • [12: 54 pm]<Amy Carr> usually not a problem because not many men peak my interest
  • [12: 54 pm]<Amy Carr> you were an unforeseen bump in my road LOL
  • [12: 56 pm]<Mr Dangerous> oh, well I am honor that you had to battle yourself to maintain your rules, you are an amazing person and I could spend time with you to something greater just a half step behind i guess.
  • [12: 57 pm]<Amy Carr> who knows what the future holds?
  • [12: 57 pm]<Amy Carr> I'm in no hurry
  • [12: 58 pm]<Mr Dangerous> not me that's for sure I was cruising along just fine and now I am in a tornado.
  • [12: 58 pm]<Amy Carr> isn't that what they say? It's always when you're not looking....
  • [1: 00 pm]<Mr Dangerous> I have been hit by two buses now you and her both. wow I am so clueless I need to crawl back in my cave.
  • [1: 00 pm]<Amy Carr> LOL
  • [1: 01 pm]<Amy Carr> Don't do that
  • [1: 01 pm]<Amy Carr> I really enjoy your friendship
  • [1: 01 pm]<Mr Dangerous> Me as well. I am happy we became friends.